The power of Positivity – Two Rules towards health and happiness.

I am aware that I mentioned two words in the title that might turn some people away from reading this article, not because they don’t want it, but because it sounds too touchy-feely, flowery and unicorny (I don’t think the word exists, but you get the point)!  The two words are positivity and happiness.

A friend of mine said to me the other day: “Your wellness and energy people don’t get. There is real sh** happening and you talk about thinking positive and speaking to the universe. Thinking positively is not going to change a damn, taking action will.”

Or others believe that thinking positively is avoiding reality.

Ok. I get it. I hear you.

And now, let me tell you my perspective, what I mean by that and how the two rules will change your life for the better.

Our brain is wired to be negative. It is programmed to save our life and look out for us. So it will always focus on what might go wrong, who is our enemy and what will we need to run away from next. Being negative is our default state.

When we focus on what might go wrong, what we don’t want and what we don’t have, we will never get past our thoughts and create results we actually desire. Our actions will be the reflection of our thoughts. As long as we only focus on not wanting to eat sugar and junk food as an example, we will keep doing it. That’s because we haven’t given a clear signal what we actually want to do and what we will do. So, replace it with: “From now on I will be eating max. 2 takeaway meals a week and I will have one little piece of chocolate a day.

“Our thoughts become our actions and our actions become our results.”

As you see, I am not avoiding reality, I am focusing on solutions with positivity.

Rule #1: Focusing on solutions.
Rule# 2: Focus on what you want to have and live it like you already have it.

We often complain about all the things we don’t have, haven’t achieved and might never do. With this mindset, we limit ourselves and are most likely not going to experience the life we want.

Let’s say you are telling yourself that you will start travelling once you have a new job, you will go tramping once you lose 10 kilograms or you will start going to yoga classes once your kids are older.

The problem is that we are often waiting for something to happen and find reasons why we can’t do something TODAY. Years go by and we still haven’t done what we actually wanted. This is how midlife crises happen. So, I suggest to determine what you want to do, create a list, a vision board and start planning how and when you are going to do it. Not tomorrow, not in two years’ time. Today. ​
​Do you want to travel? Find a destination, even if it is only an hour away, book a room and enjoy that time away from home. You want to go tramping but feel like you are not fit enough? Well, it is definitely not going to change by waiting for it. Start off small, with just a walk from 30 mins around the neighborhood. Then plan the next walks that are suitable for beginners. See, and the more you walk, the fitter you become, the more likely you are even going to lose weight. ​

So – does it mean that thinking positively is avoiding reality? No, it is just shifting to constructive thinking. Thinking that will actually get you to where you want to go, rather than being stuck in thoughts of negativity and procrastination. With positive thinking, we create a positive energy instead of zapping ourselves of energy by being sad, frustrated, bored and unhappy.

Get that journal out today and start planning and positivity.

Watch the full video on The power of positive thinking here:

Eugenia Nikiforow mindfoodness coach


Empowering women to transform their mindset to achieve a life, body and health they deserve. Supporting women not only with their diet but working also on a deeper level to break old habits, overcome blockages that no longer serve you so that you finally feel in charge of your health, body and life. I have a three pillar approach to health by addressing your health concerns physically, nutritionally and mentally.



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